Do I have the word "SLUT" written on my forehead?!

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Just because you're sexy it doesn't mean I want to bang your brains out!!!

- Kathleen Sleigh

The universe loves to give us life tests and I have had my fair share of them; many of which I have failed and many in which I have passed with flying colours. Last night the universe gave me a test that I passed with flying colours and I am so proud of myself for it.

I was walking home from the gym and crossed paths with a guy who I see at the gym regularly. He is very attractive but very buff (a bit too buff if you ask me) which is something I don't find attractive at all. You know the type of buff where guys wear really tight tops to the point it looks like their triceps and biceps are going to rip the material? Yeah, that buff. No thanks!

Anyway, I once did an ab workout with this guy and his friend and got a friendly and genuine vibe from him at first. I stopped him on the street and said hello and we chatted for a good 20 minutes or so. We talked about his single friend from the gym that was trying to pick me up, talked about how I am taking a dating hiatus and we even talked about his relationship with his girlfriend and how he has a 4 year old daughter. At first I thought it was great that he was upfront about this and it seemed like he was genuinely happy to chat to me as a friend. The one alarm bell that went off for me was when the topic of cheating came up - I told him my opinion on it and how against it I am and that people should be single if they want to play around. He didn't seem to be very phased at all and told me that people get drunk and get tempted so they can't help themselves and it's no one's fault. I was gobsmacked! Considering him and his girlfriend have been together for 6 years. I just thought "Well clearly you are a player if you're not bothered by cheating".

Eventually we ended the conversation as it was getting so cold and I could hardly feel my hands. We exchanged numbers as he mentioned he had a lot of friends and I was just genuinely keen to make new friends and nothing more, so I was happy to exchange details. As soon as I got home guess who sent me a message? This guy... I thought "Oh dear here we go... he is trying me on here".

Let me run you through what he said to me (and for those women who have high self esteem you will be disgusted by this):

Guy: "Nice picture" (in reference to my Whatsapp profile photo)

Me: "Haha thanks. How is the gym?"

Guy: "You tell me, I wouldn't know"

Me: "So what can I store you as on my phone? Because your mate called you two names. Which one is it?"

Guy: "Flowky is a name of a viking from this show but my name is ******. You can store me as ****** the handsome Portugese guy".

Me: "Done" (this was totally a joke mind you)

Guy: "So first you call me on a private number (because I called his number thinking it was some other person calling me and I wanted to find out who it was but I forgot that it was actually his number), What next? Nude pictures? (by this point I was already turned off so I completely disregarded it and changed the subject). You know I would have taken you home since it was so cold" (me thinking "Yeah, take me back to your house where you live with your girlfriend in which I am sure she isn't home right now"... YUCK!)

Me: "I was trying to call your number thinking it was somebody else, my bad. This other guy keeps trying to call me and he won't stop!"

Guy: "Why does he do that? You must be good in bed or something"

Now that last message was the last straw for me. I was so disgusted by him I deleted the message feed and his number. I wasn't even going to give him the time of day after that. Especially since he had a girlfriend. How disrespectful to her and to me.

I was really proud of myself because as I've mentioned in my previous posts I am attracted to really sexy men and get turned on when they give me sexual attention, or any attention for that matter. But I wasn't going to allow myself to make the same mistake and fall for his disgusting games and lower my standards. I just thought "Wow, you clearly know you're good looking and think that every single girl is going to fall for that act. Well not me mate!"

So anyway, he messaged me again tonight asking me how my night was last night and if I got wasted (because when we were chatting on the street I told him I was going out with friends for drinks). Again, I deleted the message feed and did not reply.

I really hope he gets the hint now and PISSES THE F**K OFF. Yeah that's right, I can feel empowered for once. I have every right to stand up for myself. If he messages me again I will probably block his number because this type of behaviour just makes me so angry.

I realised that this guy was a player and that I do not have room for him whatsoever. Don't get me wrong, sexy guys are very nice to look at it but it's worth nothing if they are players.

If I ever see him at the gym again I won't be rude to him but I am not giving him the time of day. It's so pathetic and disgusting that he thought his good looks would win me over. And it was almost as if he thought I thought that it would be a turn on sleeping with him while he is in a relationship. That is not a road I will ever go down again (yes, I have been the other woman before and I will write a post about that at some stage).

FYI Portugese guy: I do not have the word "SLUT" written on my forehead. I am actually way too good for that. Good luck trying it on with some other girl. I feel sorry for the vulnerable women you will target who are yet to love themselves first. God help them. But good luck trying it on with the women who already highly regard themselves. And the women like me who are working their way to loving themselves and working on their self-esteem. Guaranteed you will not succeed. Please do not contact me ever again. I do not want to have sex with you and I do not want to speak to you. See you! Bye!

This has to be one of the proudest and most empowering moments of my life. I thank the universe for giving me this test so soon after ending a casual relationship with Mr. X. I am so happy I passed and that I did not abandon myself. I hope the universe gives me more tests like this for me to put into practice so I can keep honouring my standards. Because these guys need to understand that they cannot walk all over me. Good luck trying, but you will not succeed.

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