My Mr Available

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"He loves me for all that I am - the good, the bad and the ugly. We are in this journey of unconditional love together" - Kathleen Sleigh

Do any of you remember my post 'He's really not that special'? I had a list of pros and cons about Mr X - the pros represented the superficial values that didn't reflect on how he treated me and the cons were why he wasn't good for me. Well, after having that list for two months, last night I had one last look at it then ripped it up, burnt it and threw it away. For the first time in my life since things ended with Mr X and I, I finally was able to let go of the anger I felt towards him. And that's not because I don't believe how he treated me was okay, I was just ready to accept that and let it go. Not for him but for me because now I can focus on what makes me truly happy. I have written a new list about what is it that Kathleen Mae Sleigh wants? And it is a much more positive list to look at. I also made a list of who my Mr Available is and I have written it in such a way that he is already in my life. And I've written it this way because one of my favourite books called 'The Secret' stresses the point of visualisation - to visualise what it is you truly want and act as it as if you already have it, because the more you visualise it the more likely you will come across it. And I know this list of who my Mr Available is will bring me to him one day when I am ready. And this is because I truly believe it.

So, without further ado, here is my list:

“I am a PRIZE that needs to be earned. And what a prize to win”

My Mr Available:

1. Treats me with respect by not calling me names, not talking down to me, not insulting me, not belittling me and not being verbally or physically abusive towards me

2. Cares about my feelings

3. Apologises when he makes mistakes

4. Isn’t afraid to admit when he is wrong

5. Takes responsibility for his actions

6. Doesn’t talk over me in conversation, nor does he relate everything I say back to himself

7. Is able to have a civilised and mature conversation with me and able to find a solution when there is a problem

8. Doesn’t hurt me on purpose both verbally and physically

9. Treats my family (especially my mum and my sisters Sarah and Nadia), my friends, his family and his friends with utmost respect

10. Is kind, caring and thoughtful by considering me and others

11. Is good with children and shows he is a good dad by helping me out with them when they are babies to give me rest, makes effort to make time for them and loves them unconditionally

12. He is honest, trustworthy and loyal

13. He cheers me up when I am sad through means that are not sexual – makes me a cup of tea, plays ‘The Office’ and ‘Summer Heights High’ because he knows they’re my favourite shows that make me laugh uncontrollably

14. He is a good listener and remembers the things I say, especially the important things

15. Accepts me at my worst as well as my best

16. He encourages me to strive for success in my career and all other personal goals in my life

17. He supports my goals and dreams

18. He supports me with my depression and anxiety and doesn’t make me feel bad about it or feel like any less of a person because of it

19. He isn’t selfish

20. He is willing to compromise and make sacrifices for me

21. He goes out of his way to make sure I’m okay in any emergency e.g. picking me up from work when I am sick, will meet me out for lunch or dinner when he is busy if I’ve had a super bad day and need him there, will pick my mum up if she is in need if she is unwell or in strife for whatever reason, same goes for my sisters

22. He spoils me by cooking me dinner, taking me on holidays, surprises me with massages and being affectionate as I love hugs and kisses

23. He helps out my loved ones

24. He tells me he loves me EVERYDAY

25. He tells me he misses me when we are apart

26. He tells me how much he appreciates me

27. He tells me I am beautiful on the inside and out and never lets me forget it

28. He asks about my day, my life and plans for the future and genuinely cares and wants to be apart of that

29. He makes it known that I am apart of HIS future

30. He doesn’t doubt being with me, he is serious about us and is willing to fight for me when the going gets tough and not walk away so easily and let me go

31. He doesn’t play games

32. He loves me UNCONDITIONALLY

I have this list written in three places: in my journal, my big ideas book and have typed it up on Microsoft Word so I have access to it everywhere at all times. I feel so proud of this list because I know these are the ideals of what I am looking for in Mr Right and I know I will be treated like this when I meet him. I feel so happy to have come up with this list because I am in a much better place. I wouldn't have been able to write this if I was in a bad place and still seeing Mr X. I wouldn't have had the self esteem to write this, so this is a massive achievement for me.

What's your list?

Start visualising who you want NOW! The sooner you do, the sooner you will come across him.

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