You are the last piece of cake in your exclusive boutique

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"My cake is full of love, kindness, generosity, care, purity and goodness. If you are not worthy of me, you will not be entitled to my last slice. Why? Because you simply don't have the capacity to appreciate my goodness and because of that, you miss out on amazing, amazing which is ME" - Kathleen Sleigh

When I was going through a really tough time from a fall out of yet another casual relationship some time last year, my good friend Danni who I had the absolute pleasure of meeting in London (and who is the most amazing energy to have around at times like these) gave me the best ever analogy of many amazing analogies up her sleeve. Because of how worthless I felt and at such a loss because of this 'barely there' guy, she told me this analogy: "imagine you are the last piece of cake at an exclusive, high end food boutique. You're not just any cake though, you are unique and you are also located on the very top shelf of the fridge. Imagine men who walk into your exclusive boutique who just pick and choose cakes as they please, without really thinking about the goodness of it all, scoffing these slices of cakes down because they have little appreciation for how it tastes and how it makes them feel. Think about this: imagine one of these men took your last slice of deliciousness only to not be appreciated and respected for it? You were made with love and with goodness, you can't just offer your last slice up so freely for someone who isn't worthy of your slice. After all, you are on the top shelf and are already showing that you're super hard to get to, because men need to work for you, it's not meant to be easy to have you. If a guy doesn't kiss the ground you walk on then you need to walk away and find someone who does, because you are nothing short of amazing".

At first, this made me laugh so much because of the simplicity and hilarity of it all - comparing myself to a piece of cake?! But when I really thought about this analogy, it actually made so much sense! Like with any situation/person/experience you have and come across in your life, it is only worth having if you truly appreciate it with your whole heart. If you don't, then you're not worthy of having it. And this is why the cake analogy made so much sense. I often forget how amazing I am and what I have to offer - I am loyal, honest, kind, caring, thoughtful, I go out of my way for others to help them when it means sacrificing my time, and if you treat me right I will love you unconditionally, you can be certain of that. If I can somehow have the ability to love someone who has treated me so wrong in the past, just imagine how much I will love you when you treat me right. You are going to be one of the lucky ones. And I will be lucky to have chosen someone who was worth having my last slice.

My special women, never forget your potential and what you have to offer, because you have a lot. It's such a shame that we offer so much to men who are not worthy of it. It's crushing, it's painful, it's heartbreaking to realise they could care less. I follow so many love and relationship coaches on Instagram and have connected with so many amazing women (and men even) through the comments to the posts of those coaches. They have been through so much pain and have given so much of themselves to those who could care less about them and who could care less about how much they give to them. It's just so selfish, so cruel and so wrong on all levels. And it's people like this that allow ourselves to feel unworthy and give ourselves so freely to others because it's what we think we deserve. If any of you have seen the film 'The Perks of Being a Wallflower' you would know the quote stated by Charlie's teacher: "We accept the love we think we deserve" and Charlie responds with "can we make them know that they deserve more?" and Charlie's teacher replying with "we can try". For those of you who haven't seen this nothing short of amazing film, it is such an eye opener to the relationships we settle for. And I think this quote resonates with everyone because we tolerate what we think we deserve when it comes to love. And most of the time when we are in a dark place of loneliness, low self esteem and low self worth, we often settle for those who are not deserving of us (even though we know this), we still choose to accept them and love them because we think it's the best we can get, we think that there is no one better out there and more amazing for us. This couldn't be even further than the truth.

It makes me so sad and heartbroken that so many of these amazing people I have connected with on Instagram have put themselves in these situations because they truly believe these toxic relationships are what they deserve. These people I have connected with (mostly women) but now most recently an amazing male soul from Australia, Peter (who I will be meeting when he visits London next week) are some of many amazing human beings in this world. Having only just connecting with them in the cyber world, I have already learned so much about who they are and have been able to sense from their posts how beautiful their aura is. And that they are such beautiful souls who deserve the best. It makes me heartbroken that they have all been through pain and have accepted love they think they deserve. If I could meet all of them to give them hugs all day, everyday and tell them how AMAZING they are, I would! And I hope one day I will get to meet all you beautiful souls within my lifetime, because you have touched my life in so many ways, more ways than you will ever know. And I cannot thank you enough for that. And that's what makes you amazing. Sidetracking now from the topic at hand hehe as I could go on about these amazing souls all day!

Just remember who you are and why you became that person. You are amazing despite your flaws, you are amazing despite your mistakes. Don't let those who are not worthy of you define you, they don't have the right to get through the gatekeeper (being you) and destroying what's behind those beautiful, golden gates of yours. Remember how hard you worked to become the amazing you. And you are SO amazing, so wait for YOUR amazing, because that is what you deserve, no less. You are that last slice of cake, you were made with so much love and so much joy. Only share that love and joy to those who will appreciate it and share it with you. You are SPECIAL. You ARE UNIQUE, and I'll say this again - you are AMAZING.

You have two choices - you can either rush the process and let 'any' someone walk into your exclusive boutique and have your last piece OR... you can embrace being on the top shelf for as long as you need to and enjoy being adored for even longer, have more time on that shelf to love yourself, be happy on your own first and wait for the right person to walk into your exclusive boutique and have your last slice; the person who will appreciate ALL of your goodness. The choice is yours...

How long will you wait until you serve up your last slice of deliciousness?

Love and light,

Kat

XXX

#selfworth